On Yahoo! Answers:
Are people who have spanking fantasies damaged?
I’ve been fantasizing about being spanked since I was a child, does this mean i was in some way abused, or is my dysfunction as an adult more related to the fact that I am not accepting of this side of me, and have not previously shared it with anyone in real life? …
Maybe.. depends… on the circumstances and how you feel about spanking, and exactly what level of importance it or any other turn-on-trigger, holds at this time in your life. Sorry I couldn’t be more helpful… give you a goood sound spanking!!! for eg.!!!
It was interesting that all the answers on Yahoo were “no” – while these well-meaning folk were all nice and tolerant of spanking, I disagree with them. I think that those of us who are true spankos, that is, those of us with extremely strong spanking fantasies, were damaged in some way when we were children, and I have a pretty good idea what that way is. Our behavior is not normal, and yes, there is such a thing as normalcy although that is often denied in these relativistic times. Not that we’re bad people – it’s not a moral question since there’s nothing we can do about it.
Those who simply like light, sensual play are another matter. It’s a subject I hope to take up at length eventually.