All Things Spanking does not condone corporal punishment of children. The study summarized in the following article suggests that one cause of “masochistic sex, including sexual arousal by spanking” is having been spanked as a child and wrongly processing those spankings. This completely ignores why and how the large number of spankophiles who were never spanked as children developed the interest, and implies that safe, sane, consensual adult spanking is wrong. We all know that appropriate adult spanking spice is not wrong.
A complete read of this study would be necessary to determine how strongly the researchers claim the link is between childhood and adult spanking. Yet, even the summary and brief overview contained in this USA Today article raise questions and pause for debate.
Study: Spanking may lead to sexual problems later
Children whose parents spank them or otherwise inflict physical punishment may be more likely to have sexual problems later, according to research to be presented today to the American Psychological Association.
The analysis of four studies by Murray Straus, co-director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire-Durham, suggests that children whose parents spanked, slapped, hit or threw objects at them may have a greater chance of physically or verbally coercing a sexual partner, engaging in risky sexual behavior or engaging in masochistic sex, including sexual arousal by spanking.
“It increases the chances of sexual problems,” though “it’s not a one-to-one causation,” Straus says. …
Link to entire article here.
Thats nuts! Your right in the fact that this does not account for all of those not spanked as kids. It’s a shame that this is being attacked. These scientists are probably only getting vanilla sex. They’re jealous enough to have to call us sexually defective—all in the name of science.
my mother carried a ping pong paddle in her purse and i was subject to it at any time and place and she seemed to not want to quit once she got started.. but it hasn’t deterred me from wanting to submit sometimes, as a switch i like it once in a while but i do prefer giving more. does this mean i’m interested because i seek revenge upon a woman’s bum?? no! happen to love female fannies round,lushious and watching them turn colors is absolutely wonderful!
My mother carried a round, wooden paddle from a “pitter-patter” (the toy with a rubber ball attached to a paddle by a rubber band). Anytime I acted up, she reddened my ass with it. Were those spankings somehow responsible for the alleged subconscious need I have now to spank and/or be spanked? WHO CARES???!!! I love spanking in all of it’s manifestations and I don’t care why. I have a very strong, “healthy”, sexual appetite, that is directly linked to spanking. I never relate any of this to my mother. That was then: this is now.
For those of us who have followed the spanking community, we have all heard of people who are into spanking or being spanked, yet have never been spanked themselves. What I’m curious about is if they ever witnessed a spanking when they were a kid. No one ever follows that up. Trying to analyze my own history, I feel that I’m a spanko because of the spankings I witnessed as a kid, not from the spankings I received myself.
I too never received more than a few swats as a child. I did witness some spankings at school, but before I reached adolescence.
But I have always been excited or fascinated about hearing about someone being spanked, especially a teen or adult.
What sort of “sexual problems” do they mean? Being gay used to be considered a problem or a disorder. Now we are more enlightened and knowledgeable. Maybe the “spanko thing” is just another in the wide variations of human sexualities.
I wonder if the authors of this study focus more on how the spankings we received/witnessed were processed by us (i.e., did we connect sexual satisfaction with spanking and only spanking?). I’m not trying to defend this study as I have not read the whole thing only what the journalist summarized. It was bing presented today. It does strike me as narrow-minded and antiquated if the author suggests that adult spanking play is a “sexual disease” or psychological disorder.
I’d be interested in what the therapists among us have to say about this, and have sent this link to a few that I know. I’m sure that others will weigh in over time. I’ll try to catch as many posts/articles as I can, and point readers in their direction.
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That’s all I have to say about that. The article about the study reads more like someone just wanted to put “spanking” in a headline.
There is only one other member of my family, that I know of, who shares the same “Kink” as myself, we could not have had more different chilhoods, different parental situations, different home/school lives, different genders, different generations, grew up (mostly) in different countries, the list goes on, yet we are both bottoms/subs. This leads me to believe that there is more of a genetic influence than a phsycological one. It is about time that the boffins put the pysch thing to one side and did a proper genetic study on us.
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There are too many spankos who were not spanked or abused as children to lump this thing that we do into some psycho-babble study blaming our “sexual problems” on childhood abuse.
Really, it is more that “sexual problems” than the suggestion that some abuse victims might turn to bdsm practices to cope, which upsets me. I DO NOT consider being a spanko or kinky to be a “problem”.
I also can not help but note that the “normal” way of things for the vast majority of human history did include corporal punishment of both children and adults. To suggest that such practices cause abnormal personality development fundamentally ignore this fact.
Oddly, I was both spanked and abused as a child. I never considered the spankings abuse, many kids were spanked, and I preferred being spanked to being grounded, etc. The abuse was always very different and a product of anger which I never accepted as being normal.
I do know abuse survivors who deal with their past through masochistic activities. This represents a rather small percentage of those whom I have known in a bdsm lifestyle, and more often these people veered away from ‘lighter play’ like spanking into sexual humiliation and genital pain. Most of them wouldn’t have considered what themselves to have had “sexual problems” either.