Thursday Thoughts – Mark It Up

Thursday Thoughts is a weekly column in which Ms. Victoria Kay, a Phoenix-based Disciplinarian and Spankologist, provides her insights to reader questions or those posed by All Things Spanking. Thursday Thoughts columns are archived on a page of its own in addition to being available through the normal search feature. Please email if you wish to suggest a question for Ms. Victoria.

Question: May spanking enthusiasts enjoy seeing the marks left from a spanking, but … often … not for too long. Others want all the discomfort, but no marks. What are your thoughts for preventing marks while still “getting the job done” and for treating marks that do occur?

Ms. Victoria says: It’s a common request to minimize marks and bruising, not leave any at all, or create ones that will fade within a couple days. Most of the time, a real good spanking can be given to the point of intense, hot, and red without marking up a bottom. From experience, I know what implements and intensities are likely to create marks and bruising so this request is not difficult to grant. For example, if someone can’t have marks, the cane is out, lol. And my heavy rubber strap will almost always leave bruising. I do a lot of hand spanking and lighter implements for no-mark sessions and have never had a complaint that it wasn’t a true spanking experience with all the bells and whistles. Some bottoms mark or bruise easier then others so it’s also about being aware of what impact is being made throughout the spanking. As for treating marked sore bottoms, as I’ve said in a previous post, Arnica gel or cream works well 🙂

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Friday Frivolity

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Friday frivolity

Start up the band … butt bongo style.

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All Things Spanking over the years on this date

2016 – The Bat Will not be messed with
2015 – A hard paddling
2014 – Tools of the trade: A classic hairbrush
2014 – Just stretching
2013 – Just taking a break during a stroll in the woods
2012 – Off Topic: Sage Advice
2011 – Aww, Pawwww … a spanking, yes, but …
2010 – Another starlet that needs a sound spanking
2010 – Bound and positioned
2010 – Spanking party
2010 – Super Hero Paddles
2009 – Aren’t those cute little shorts called spankies?
2009 – Mattenkloppers at work
2008 – Spanking is such hard work!
2007 – Snap that ball, take that lick

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Thursday Thoughts – Spanking and Sex

Thursday Thoughts is a weekly column in which Ms. Victoria Kay, a Phoenix-based Disciplinarian and Spankologist, provides her insights to reader questions or those posed by All Things Spanking. Thursday Thoughts columns are archived on a page of its own in addition to being available through the normal search feature. Please email if you wish to suggest a question for Ms. Victoria.

Question: Spanking involves an element of eroticism considering that one’s derriere has many nerves with some running through the pelvic area, and also involves a certain degree of intimacy between the participants. Many enthusiasts feel that spanking is, therefore, a sexual act. Others adhere to the feeling that adult spanking is not sexual, and involves role play separate and distinct from sex. Could you discuss?

Ms. Victoria says: Certainly.

As I’ve said before, sexual energy is of the most powerful forces in the universe, and it’s a motivating factor to receive a spanking. However, the “benefits” and experience of spanking encompass many non-sexual aspects.

To some people, spanking is more sexual then others, with pendulum swings from the only thing that “gets them off” to not aroused at all.

I do agree whole heartily that spanking is an intimate act. By intimacy I mean a closeness between top and bottom. There is a huge vulnerability factor that sets the stage for this on the bottoms end and then a genuine caring and selfless giving for the top. Now I’ve heard of some tops being distant and cold, but to me this is not ideal. In order to give a good spanking, one must be in tune with the spankee and when a top shuts themselves off, these energies can not be felt enough to really engage and give it how it needs to be given. It is a misconception that one must either be sadistic or shut off emotionally to give an intense spanking. In fact, the contrary is true.

Another relevant thought here is that to me a beautiful part of spanking is how there is the intimacy and care, arousal, release of stress, invigoration and optimally transcendence without the actual act of sex. Some clients have even said they prefer a good spanking over sex if you can believe that. 😉

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Friday frivolity

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Do clothes make the scene?

Thursday Thoughts is a weekly column in which Ms. Victoria Kay, a Phoenix-based Disciplinarian and Spankologist, provides her insights to reader questions or those posed by All Things Spanking. Thursday Thoughts columns are archived on a page of its own in addition to being available through the normal search feature. Please email if you wish to suggest a question for Ms. Victoria.

Question: Many enthusiasts speak of the setting or attire as paramount in their interest for spanking. Do you find that your clothing or that of the spankee is often important? Granted the spankee almost always loses all or part of any clothing. What attire or scenes are most often employed in your experience?

Ms. Victoria says: I am one to dress in business casual with a bit of a twist. Sometimes, clients wish to create a scene where a change in attire is needed, and I am happy to oblige within reason.

As for the spankee, what’s important to me is that they are comfortable and clean. I do not have a dress code aside from cleanliness. And, again, sometimes a role play calls for a particular outfit for the spankees as well.

Usually, if in a requested scene, I am playing a wife, girlfriend, teacher, boss or babysitter/nanny. I don’t do mommy scenes for reasons I’m sure anyone could understand. Roleplay is a lot of fun to me and I’m quite good at it 😉

Attire can help with a scene but honestly it’s more about the energy that is exuded. That’s what really sets the stage and holds space for the session to unfold.

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Spanking for Charity

All Things Spanking recently received an email from Danielle, a UK-based spanking model, who strongly supports the Lymphoma Association (UK). Regardless of where you live, cancer can strike you, your loved ones, or friends at any time. I have re-posted the pertinent parts of Danielle’s email, and urge you to do what you can to support her, or any worthy charitable cause..

Please sponsor me! I am walking 60 miles for the Lymphoma Association.

Hello, it’s Danielle,
I hope you are well and enjoying the weekend.

I am emailing you because on bank holiday weekend [UK] next month – Saturday 26th and Sunday 27th August 2017 – I am walking 60 miles {100 kilometres} to raise money for charity.

This will be the fourth year I have done a long distance walk. The reason why I have chosen to support the Lymphoma Association this year is because a good friend of mine named Peter, who I have known for 5 years and who has been an excellent friend to me, is battling this illness, for the second time. Peter is a brilliant person, very kind and friendly, but the illness makes life very difficult for him, and affects just about everything that he does.

Fortunately, he has a a team of fantastic doctors, nurses and specialists who are going to extra mile to make sure that this is the last time he battles this illness. I am extremely grateful for the excellent care he receives, but when you consider that his treatment is valued at £360,000.00… it’s a lot of money!!!!

In August 2016, I completed a 60 mile sponsored walk raising money for Prostate Cancer UK and raised just over £3,500.00 in total. I was sore and crippled for a week, but it was absolutely worth it. I am hoping to raise more this year. I have been spending a lot of time training recently and going to the gym, very boring but I hope it will help me tackle the Seven Sisters Hills!

The sponsored walk is part of the South Coast Challenge and takes place on Saturday 26th August 2017. I did the same walk last year. The walk begins in Eastbourne, East Sussex, along the South Downs and ends in Arundel, West Sussex. When I finish the race, I will receive a medal, a certificate of completion and have my photograph taken at the finish line.

LYMPHOMA CANCER BEWARE, I’m going to walk all over you!

Josephine Scissons

As well as doing the sponsored walk, I have also organised a Sponsored Spanking Party with spankees Chloe, Josephine and myself.

Naughty Chloe

Gorgeous girls with gorgeous bottoms who want a firm spanking…strictly in the name of charity of course!

The parties will be held on Saturday 19th and Thursday 24th August 2017 and will take place in Birmingham and start at 1.00pm on both days. Lots of spanking fun guaranteed! We will also be celebrating Chloe’s birthday, so they are going to be fun parties all round.

ALL of the proceeds from the party will go to the Lymphoma Association. It would be great if you could attend and give us all us naughty girls a sore bottom

If you are unable to attend a party, I really do hope that you will consider sponsoring me, as I do believe that this charity are doing some amazing work, They receive no funding from the UK government and need every penny.

If you would like to sponsor me to do my walk, please email or ring me and I will add your pledge to my sponsorship form

Now, I better go and put my walking boots on…. just 4 weeks to go! Wish me luck! Pray to whoever your God is that I finish unscathed! A swollen ankle is a lot worse than a sore bum.

Danielle Hunt
www.stingingtails.co.uk
spankdanielle@hotmail.co.uk
07763 870 589

Charity information:

South Coast Challenge information:
http://www.southcoastchallenge.com/

The Lymphoma Association Charity information:
https://www.lymphomas.org.uk/

Charity event co-ordinator Ms. Adele Matthews – a.matthews@lymphomas.org.uk
The Lymphoma Association is a registered charity in England and Wales (1068395) and in Scotland (SC045850).
A company limited by guarantee registered in England and Wales (number 03518755).
Lymphoma Association, 3 Cromwell Court, New Street, Aylesbury, P20 2PB.
Admin line 01296 619 400

Party information www.stingingtails.co.uk

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Friday frivolity

She is effectively administering the prescribed medicine.


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Spank it well

Sophie Saint Thomas is a Brooklyn-based writer who states on her website/blog that “She really likes to write about sex and was named “Slut of the Month” in January of 2017 by the feminist publication Slutist.”

Sophie published an article related to spanking on GQ. Like several of All Things Spanking’s recent links, this article has good information for all spankers regardless of experience.

A Very Useful Guide to Sexy Spanking

… whether you’re a beginner spanker or a powerful dominant who wants to leave a handprint on your submissive, let’s be real: While spanking is totally normal and fun, it’s still hitting someone. Here’s how to do it respectfully…and sexily. …

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How to spank … and a refresher

Miranda Kane is a UK-based “writer, performer, comedian …” who states that she “used to be a Sex Worker – phone sex, webcamming, escort and Dominatrix, I’ve done it all…and I’m happy to tell you all about it!”

Miranda recently published A beginner’s guide to spanking: Everything you need to know about making an impact in Metro (online). It is a good overview of key issues for new spanking enthusiasts and a solid reminder of those issues for the experienced. As Miranda writes:

Spanking has been a popular activity in the bedroom for centuries. It was mentioned in the ‘Harris’ list of Covent Garden Ladies’ (a Georgian review of prostitutes in London), with one practitioner being described as using ‘more birch rods in a week than Westminster school in a twelvemonth’. …

Read it all here.

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A Domme is created

From Your Tango, another post about a vanilla girl turning to spanking and BDSM. Read it all here.

How I Became A Sex Worker After One Kinky Visit To A BDSM Bar

… I find it deeply satisfying to feel the power while at the same time knowing that I’m serving the masochist. …

… In a way, I believe BDSM is a type of alternative meditation experience. …

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